Author: wholenesswellnesstherapy
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Anticipatory Grief Part 2: Unresolved Issues & Unfinished Business
“I have mixed feelings about my father’s impending death. I love him, and yet I hate him.” Processing these conflicted feelings while anticipating grief is a very tough process. When a loved one is dying, there may be some unresolved issues or unfinished business that need to be dealt with. Though often used interchangeably, ‘unresolved issues’…
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Anticipatory Grief Part 1: When My Client Died
“Tricia, my friends are praying for me. I will be well.” “We are praying for a miracle—we want you to be well. But have you considered… what if healing doesn’t come? What then?” Silence pierced the air. No one was talking. In that suspended moment, time seemed to fracture as we sat together, grappling with…
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“My Anger Is Tearing My Family Apart” – A Client’s Journey to Healing
Handling Anger Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences, but when it becomes frequent or overwhelming, it can strain relationships, health, and happiness. If you find yourself struggling with anger, know that you are not alone—and seeking help is a brave and positive step toward healing. The Breaking Point: A Client’s Story A man…
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I Almost Got Scammed – How It Happened (And How to Avoid It)
The Scam: A Close Call “Ms Poon, you have activated a $900+ per month insurance policy.” “I didn’t activate anything on my end and I don’t remember signing up for any policy.” “OK. Since you didn’t sign up for the policy, you need to cancel the authorisation of the deduction of the premium.” To cut…
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How to find hope after Betrayal
How Couples Can Rebuild Trust After Infidelity & Addiction Betrayal in marriage—especially when linked to sexual addiction—is a storm that can leave both partners feeling lost, shattered, and alone. But as a couples therapist specializing in affair recovery, I’ve seen countless marriages not just survive, but grow stronger after crisis. To the Betrayed Spouse: Your…
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How to Strengthen Your Marriage Before Crisis Hits
Rekindling the connection of a relationship Have you ever felt a quiet ache in your marriage – a longing for closeness, understanding, or simply to be seen by your partner? If so, you are not alone. Over the years, I have walked alongside many couples as they navigated the heartbreak of infidelity, and I have…
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How to Set Boundaries at Work Without Feeling Guilty
“Don’t bring your mother to work.” My client looked at me, bewildered. As I explained, I could tell that she’s joining the dots. In many of my clients’ work situations, there is a correlation between their home and work situations. You see, my client grew up in a family where no boundaries are drawn. Children…
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What is Trauma Bonding?
Why Can’t I Leave a Toxic Relationship? “He would pull my hair, slam knock my head on the floor, and kick me. After then, he would apologise, buy me branded bags, and bring me to nice places for dinner. Sometime later, the whole cycle would repeat itself. I was very confused. I also felt anxious…
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Digital Parenting: How to help my kid in the digital age?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by your teen’s behavior or worried about their digital habits? You’re not alone. As a family therapist, I meet many parents who are at their wit’s end-especially when their teens seem out of control, get into trouble, or are under investigation for serious issues like bullying or inappropriate conduct. Why Are…
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How to turn Conflict into Connection?
Moving Beyond Fighting By the time couples come to see me for marital therapy, most would have already been deeply hurt and scarred by each other because of the numerous fights they had. Fights are a regular feature of married life and yet many couples failed to manage their fights, turning spouses into adversaries and…
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